Marriage Problem Advice

Marriage Problems Help

Having a marriage conflict?
Get marriage problem advice!
What makes or breaks a marriage?
These inspirational and motivational quotes and tips
will help with common marriage problems.

How to Resolve a Marriage Conflict

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The fate of a marriage
depends on each partner’s ability to love,
to care, to feel attachment,
develop intimacy, express emotion
and to commit to resolving marriage conflict without conquest.
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Sometimes, the ability to monitor and resolve conflict
is what makes or breaks a marriage.
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Marriage Problem Solving

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It is incorrect to teach compromise
as a solution to marriage conflict.
What is compromise?
Compromise means you don’t get what you want
and I don’t get what I want,
or you only get part of what you want
and I only get part of what I want.
Either way, no one is satisfied.
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More poignant and useful is the concept of sacrifice;
transcending one’s own need through empathy.
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Sometimes (not always!)
what’s better for “us”
is forgetting what’s best for “me”.
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Clear Boundaries Help
Problems in Marriage

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He will kiss me with the kisses of his mouth.
-Song of Songs-
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At Mt. Sinai, the Jewish people were so filled with the passion of the Jewish soul to get closer and closer to God - three times God had to tell them not to touch the mountain.
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In a good marriage,
there is a passion to share joy and be close,
yet both partners have to maintain separate identities;
have to have some boundaries.
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Marriage Problem Relationship Tip

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Marriage problems will not always be solved intellectually.
Sometimes they can only be solved through attachment. Attachment to the marriage, if not to each other.
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Adapted from a lecture by Rabbi Dr. David Fox
“Love & Marriage Problem Advice: A Torah Perspective"
Los Angeles Vol. 15.40
© 2008 Rae Ekman Shagalov All rights reserved.