Solving Promblem in Relationship

"If we want to resolve relationship problems we need to value listening and learning more than proving we are right and worthy." ~Jean Raffa

Quotes on Love and Marriage

These quotes on marriage by Rebbetzin Sarah Karmely
will show you how to be happily married every minute -
not just on your wedding day!

Marriage Quotations

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40 days before you were born, God chose your soulmate for you.
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A woman should always ask God out loud
for good things for her husband.
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The wife is the source of blessing.
Treat her like a Queen.
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Romance Quote

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After the marriage is when the romance should begin.
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A woman is as holy as a Sefer Torah.
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Abuse of a woman is as forbidden as abusing a Sefer Torah.
Neither man nor woman can permit it.
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Honor your wife more than yourself.
Love your wife more then yourself.
Do not let her shed a tear.
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It is said that since the parting of the Red Sea,
What has God been doing?
Making matches.
What is the relationship?
The nature of the waters is to come together,
but the nature of man and woman is to go apart.
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Couple Love Quotes

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This is your soulmate.
Once you’re married,
you have to know
this is the one God chose for you.
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Nobody is single.
Everyone is half a soul.
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Husband and wife:
Side by side, equal but different
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For a happy home, don’t argue about religion.
Find someone else to be your spiritual advisor,
other than your husband or wife.
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Love Saying

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When you can’t have something, you love and desire it more.
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Everybody needs forbidden fruit.
This is the great secret wisdom of Mikveh (the ritual bath).
For 12 days of the month, the wife is forbidden fruit.
On the night of the Mikveh, she is a new bride,
and her husband is a new groom ~ every month!
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Mikveh night is very special.
Plan for it.
Make it holy.
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Marriage Love Quotes

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You have to get married every minute,
not just on your wedding day.
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When the Rebbe walked through the door,
if the Rebbetzin was on the phone,
she would always say, “I’m sorry,
I have to go now. I have a guest.”
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The best gift you can give your children is a happy home.
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A woman can make or break a man with a single word.
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Imagine the Rebbe is in the room with you.
Would you still say those things?
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Quotes on Marriage and Joy

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Joy breaks through all barriers.
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Every problem in the home can be resolved with joy.
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Any lack we see in others is present somewhere in ourselves.
If we fix that thing in ourselves,
we will understand and forgive it in others.
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In the end of days, Moshiach will have a lot of explaining to do!
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Quotes on Marriage by Sara Karmely
Adapted from a lecture “What Happens When Soulmates are Human?"
Jan 19, 5759; Bais Chana of California; Los Angeles
From the collection, "Desire to Delight," by Rae Shagalov
© 2008 Rae Ekman Shagalov All rights reserved.

Marriage Problem Advice

Marriage Problems Help

Having a marriage conflict?
Get marriage problem advice!
What makes or breaks a marriage?
These inspirational and motivational quotes and tips
will help with common marriage problems.

How to Resolve a Marriage Conflict

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The fate of a marriage
depends on each partner’s ability to love,
to care, to feel attachment,
develop intimacy, express emotion
and to commit to resolving marriage conflict without conquest.
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Sometimes, the ability to monitor and resolve conflict
is what makes or breaks a marriage.
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Marriage Problem Solving

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It is incorrect to teach compromise
as a solution to marriage conflict.
What is compromise?
Compromise means you don’t get what you want
and I don’t get what I want,
or you only get part of what you want
and I only get part of what I want.
Either way, no one is satisfied.
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More poignant and useful is the concept of sacrifice;
transcending one’s own need through empathy.
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Sometimes (not always!)
what’s better for “us”
is forgetting what’s best for “me”.
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Clear Boundaries Help
Problems in Marriage

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He will kiss me with the kisses of his mouth.
-Song of Songs-
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At Mt. Sinai, the Jewish people were so filled with the passion of the Jewish soul to get closer and closer to God - three times God had to tell them not to touch the mountain.
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In a good marriage,
there is a passion to share joy and be close,
yet both partners have to maintain separate identities;
have to have some boundaries.
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Marriage Problem Relationship Tip

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Marriage problems will not always be solved intellectually.
Sometimes they can only be solved through attachment. Attachment to the marriage, if not to each other.
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Adapted from a lecture by Rabbi Dr. David Fox
“Love & Marriage Problem Advice: A Torah Perspective"
Los Angeles Vol. 15.40
© 2008 Rae Ekman Shagalov All rights reserved.

Long Distance Dating Advice

When doing long distance dating,
Meet within a few weeks of writing,
emailing or speaking on the phone.
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Don't create an emotional relationship
before you actually meet or you are risking
great heartache, God forbid!
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The first date should be short.
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Even if it doesn’t go so well, go out again.
Give it a chance.
It's hard to be authentic on a first or even
second date when you may be nervous.
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With long distance dating, it is tempting
to spend every minute of every day with each other.
Don't do it.
Don’t go out every day.
Explore on your own in between dates.
If you speak on the phone on the days you don't meet,
Keep it very short.
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Don’t overdose on each other.
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Don’t see each other too frequently.
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Give yourself time and space to reflect and recover
To stay connected with your own true self.
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Don’t expect to click on the first date.
What you will experience, if it is right,
is a gradual deepening of the relationship.
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Try to Have No Expectations on the First Date

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If the conversation doesn’t go smoothly, don’t worry.
First dates are awkward.
You don’t know each other yet.
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A good first date is a cup of something hot
and a piece of cake - Short and Sweet.
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A good second date is dinner.
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If the first long distance dating meeting goes well,
see each other every few weeks
with phone calls and letters in between.
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What Are You Looking For?

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--Are your values and goals similar
--Compatible personality
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Look at the quality of the relationship

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Can you trust this person
not to use your vulnerability against you?
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Is there any point of connection
that could lead to a second date?
Look for it!
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People grow at different rates
and change throughout marriage

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You can be holding in different places,
as long as:
--the gap is not too great,
--one does not bring the other down,
--one does not try to change the other,
--you set a common standard for the home and raising children.
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When Long Distance Dating,
Date long enough to see the flaws

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In long distance dating it's hard to spend enough time
with each other to really see the flaws.
If you think you're in love, it's even harder.
Love makes the beloved seem perfect.
Long distance dating also makes
the other person seem more perfect.
But you must look for the inevitable flaws
or weak points in the other person and ask yourself:
Can I live with those flaws?
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Adapted from a lecture by Rosie Einhorn & Sherry Zimmerman
“Long Distance Dating”; 2002; vol. 15.45
© 2008 Rae Shagalov All rights reserved.

Dating Guidance for Successful Dating for Marriage

ating Guidance for Singles
Who Want to Get Married

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Are you making room and time in your life
for what is most important to you?
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Are you making time to address the issues
that are keeping you single?
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Are you putting enough time and energy into finding
and making yourself ready for your marriage partner?

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Enrich your life.
Take a class.
Do acts of kindness in the community.
Branch into new things.

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Look at what’s good for you;
not what’s good for everybody.
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Do you really want to date the same person for years?
Look for someone who has the goal of getting married.
Don’t put off asking beyond the second date
or you might be wasting your time.
One of the questions you can ask is:
“Do you like to date just to have fun
or do you have the goal of getting married
in the not too distant future?”
Will this scare some people off? Yes!
And that’s exactly what you want.
Because the people who will be afraid of the ” M” word
are the people who will waste your time
and keep you from finding your marriage partner.
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Network for your other single friends.
Did you date someone who is not right for you?
Maybe that person is a good match for your friend.
Don’t hesitate - Make the suggestion!
When you help your friend, Heaven will help you.
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What are your goals?
6 months
1 year
5 years
For a successful marriage, you need to share common goals.
First, be clear about your own goals.
Then look for someone who has similar goals.
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Dating Pitfalls:

Lists that are too long.

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Make a list of all of the qualities
you would like to find in your marriage partner.
Put everything you can think of on that list.
Now, rip up the list.
That person doesn’t exist.
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Choose 4 qualities that are important to you.
If you find someone with two of those qualities,
go out with that person.
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Hanging out with a Group.

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Don’t double date or group date.
You can’t get to know someone in-depth in a group.
Marriage is an individual process, not a group process.
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Stopping at the first date.

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It takes time to develop an emotional connection.
Once you do, you can overlook a lot of details
that you thought were important,
but turn out not to be so important.
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If you aren’t completely repulsed on the first date,
go out again.
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If there is even the tiniest inkling
that there might be something there,
go out again, even if it doesn’t seem perfect.
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Put some distance between yourself
and friends of the opposite gender.

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Staying in a close relationship with someone
of the opposite gender will hinder your ability
to develop emotional intimacy with your marriage partner.
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You will have to loosen the ties sometime,
or risk staying single forever.
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How to turn friendship into a romance:

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Say or write the following:
“I love the relationship we have
and I wonder if it could develop into something deeper.”
This can be said through a third party to make it easier
and less embarrassing.
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Ask your friend out on a date.
The date should not last more than two hours,
no more than twice a week for six weeks.
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Find out: Do you miss each other?
It’s a risk because your friendship will change.
It might even end.
Sometimes you have to take the risk
if you really want to get married.
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Adapted from a lecture by Rosie Einhorn & Sherry Zimmerman
“Becoming One”; 23 Teves 5762; vol. 15.44
© 2008 Rae Shagalov All Rights Reserved.

Spiritual Dating Guidance to Help You Get Married

It is not good for man to be alone.
So why are so many people still single?
This inspirational dating guidance from Rabbi Hanoch Teller
is for Jewish dating singles and others who want to have
successful, pleasant dating that leads to marriage.

Dating Tips for Singles

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No one wants to expose himself or herself to pain.
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In the beginning of the date
it’s important to focus on the good,
to begin again new,
to make an effort and think with an open mind:
This could be the one…
But don't focus to much on "This is the one."
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Then comes the next date and all of the excuses!
“I’m not ready.”
“Being single is great.”
“I want to fall in love.”
Overcome them!
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If you’re still waiting to hear bells,
maybe there’s something wrong with your hearing.
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Top Dating Tips for Singles
in Dating Overwhelm

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Don’t focus on yourself on the date.
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Don’t rely on your own strengths.
Be willing to be open and vulnerable.
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Too much choice is no choice.
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Beware of overchoice.
Focus on what you have in front of you.
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Don’t compare your date to other people you have dated.
Don’t imagine that someone better will come along next time.
Get to know the person and see the beautiful person he or she is.
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Jewish Single Dating Tips

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The Jewish world is family oriented.
The dominant culture is anti-family.
Non-Jewish values prevent Jewish happiness.
Money, career, success.
How important are they compared to building a Jewish family?
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Give yourself a time limit and be flexible!
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Compromise is the essence of relationship.
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Limit your non-negotiable requirements to three.
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More dating guidance
for Jewish dating singles
and anyone who is interested in
spiritual dating wisdom

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Remember to express gratitude to your Shadchan (matchmaker)
- or whoever set you up on the date.
Even if it didn't go well,
that person still made an effort on your behalf.
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Attraction grows with knowing the person.
If you are not immediately attracted to the person,
give it a chance to get to know the person.
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The mindset for dating for marriage should be:
I must get married;
therefore I will find the right one.
~Not when I find the right one, then I’ll get married.
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Adapted from a lecture on singles dating advice by Rabbi Hanoch Teller
"Inspirational Dating Guidance"
Feb. 15, 2003 Los Angeles
© 2008 Rae Ekman Shagalov All rights reserved.

Want to find your soul mate? Live life to the fullest!

Don’t wait till you get what you want.
Live your life fully now!

Trust that God
knows what He’s doing!

No one misses his or her destiny.
Don’t shlep your baggage.
Let go of your “Missed opportunities.”
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Just be friendly!
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Push a little bit beyond the limits!

 

How to Survive a First Date

First dates can be so awkward.
What do you do? What do you talk about?
Will she like me?
Will he ask me out again?
Here are some first date tips and quotes
to help you get off to a great start
and keep you happy no matter what happens.

Never judge a person on the first date.
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A person's nervousness can mask his or her true qualities.
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Look for the good always!
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- Rabbi Avraham Miller -___________________________________________________________
The purpose of a first date is to shmooze
and enjoy and see if there's enough interest
to continue on a second date.
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Don’t' get too heavy.
It's not a job interview.
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Don't share your deep, dark secrets.
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If there is even a tiny quality you relate to,go out again.
Unless it was a really horrible experience, give it a chance.
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Don't Stop at the first date.
If there is even the tiniest inkling
that there might be something there, go out again.
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Make a rule that you won’t touch for the first 30 days.
You will find that your respect for each other
grows so great you are afraid to touch.
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First impressions do not count!
People are nervous, anxious, maybe jaded on a first date.
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Don’t have any expectations on a first date.
Unless the first date is a really bad experience, go out on a second date. ___________________________________________________________
The first date is just an ice breaker.
It may be on the 4th date before you really see the true person.
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Don’t think: I’m going to marry this person?
You just met!
Wait until you’ve gone out long enough
to consider developing emotional intimacy.
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Don’t confide too much on the first date.
Keep it at the level of a typical airplane conversation.
Light ~Not Heavy.
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The first date should be short
Even if it doesn’t go so well, go out again.
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Don’t expect to click on the first date.
What you will experience if it is right
is a gradual deepening of the relationship.
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If the conversation doesn’t go smoothly, don’t worry.
First dates are awkward.
You don’t know each other yet.
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A good first date is a cup of something hot and a piece of cake.
Short and Sweet

IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE WITH THESE QUOTES ON MARRIAGE

What will my next decision bring?
Unity or disunity?

Ask yourself this question before you act,
Before you lose your temper --
How important is that problem really?
Is it worth destroying the unity of your marriage?

Make yourself Bittul (humble).
Nullify yourself to the sanctity of marriage.
Marriage is about giving ~
NOT about: “What have you don’t for me lately?
Are we having fun yet?”

When a couple is getting along,
they can sleep on the edge of a sword.
But when they don’t get along,
four cubits is not enough space.

In marriage there has to be more than:
Just you and me.
Make room for the Divine Presence in your marriage!

The one who created human nature
is the best judge of human nature.

Don’t worry about being right, do what works!

How do you maintain a great relationship?
Continue to date your wife!

Look to the Divine Wisdom for help.

How do you find Divine Wisdom?
Find a spiritual mentor who is wiser than you.
Ask for guidance about your problems,
listen and act on the advice you receive.

When you are alone,
you can lose touch with the truth of your soul.

If she has a problem ~ That’s your problem!

When a man and woman unite,
they create spiritual sparks of souls.
They bring light, and love, and blessing into the world. 

There has to be a difference between
“Before Marriage” and “After Marriage”…
a deeper spirituality.

There is no wise person like the master of being tested. 

The challenges of your life increase your wisdom.

Positive Marriage Quotes

Are you the kind of person
you want to marry?

“Marriage: Love is the reason. Lifelong friendship is the gift. Kindness is the cause. Til’ death do us part is the length.” -Fawn Weaver

“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” -Mignon McLaughlin

“Being in a long marriage is a little bit like that nice cup of coffee every morning – I might have it every day, but I still enjoy it.” -Stephen Gaines

“Happily ever after is not a fairy tale.  It’s a choice.” -Fawn Weaver

“The older I get, the less time I want to spend with the part of the human race that didn’t marry me.” -Robert Brault

“A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” -Ruth Bell Graham

“To find someone who will love you for no reason, and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.” -Robert Brault

“A great spouse loves you exactly as you are. An extraordinary spouse helps you grow; inspires you to be, do and give your very best.” -Fawn Weaver

“We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” -Sam Keen

“Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” -Unknown

“Where there is love, there is life.” -Mahatma Gandhi

“Once we figured out that we could not change each other, we became free to celebrate ourselves as we are.” -H. Dean Rutherford (in a letter to his wife on their 59th wedding anniversary)

“Love is the greatest gift when given.  It is the highest honor when received.” -Fawn Weaver

“A long-lasting marriage is built by two people who believe in -and live by- he solemn promise they made.” -Darlene Schacht

“Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.” -Henry Ford

“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.” -Dave Meurer

“Marriage is a commitment- a decision to do, all through life, that which will express your love for one’s spouse.” -Herman H. Kieval

“A fool in love makes no sense to me. I only think you are a fool if you do not love.” -Unknown

“In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything and two minus one equals nothing.” -Mignon McLaughlin

“Love is a partnership of two unique people who bring out the very best in each other, and who know that even though they are wonderful as individuals, they are even better together.” -Barbara Cage

“The doors of happiness remained locked.  When they are unlocked, they swing open quickly and widely but close right behind them.  They must be reopened throughout each day and there is but one key that fits that lock: Gratitude.” -Fawn Weaver 

“The first to apologize is the bravest.  The first to forgive is the strongest.  The first to forget is the happiest.” -Unknown

“And in the end, the love you take is equal to the love you make.” -John Lennon and Paul McCartney

“You meet thousands of people and none of them really touch you, and then you meet one person and your life is changed forever.” - Jamie Randall (from the movie, Love and Other Drugs)

“Love is always bestowed as a gift -freely, willingly, and without expectation. We don’t love to be loved, we love to love.” -Leo Buscagalia

“Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.” -Peter Ustinov

“Enjoy the little things in life… For one day you’ll look back and realize they were the big things.” -Kurt Vonnegut

“The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It is focused attention.” -Rick Warren

“Keep the fire lit in your marriage and your life will be filled with warmth.” -Fawn Weaver

“You don’t marry one person; you marry three: the person you think they are, the person they are, and the person they are going to become as a result of being married to you.” -Richard Needham

“When you compromise your beliefs for the sake of gain, that is a lack of integrity. When you compromise your beliefs for the sake of greater understanding with your spouse, that’s called wisdom.” -Fawn Weave

“One day, in your search for happiness, you discover a partner by your side, and you realize that your happiness has come to help you search.” -Robert Brault

“To keep your marriage brimming, with love in the wedding cup, whenever you’re wrong, admit it; whenever you’re right, shut up.” -Ogden Nash

“Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness.” -Oliver Wendell Holmes

“Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing.” -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

‎”No one can go back and change how it started but a new future for any marriage can begin the moment one person begins to invest in it.” -Fawn Weaver

“They say it takes a village to raise a child. That may be the case, but the truth is that it takes a lot of solid, stable marriages to create a village.” -Diane Sollee

“A happy marriage doesn’t mean you have a perfect spouse or a perfect marriage. It simply means you’ve chosen to look beyond the imperfections in both.” -Fawn Weaver

“There are a hundred paths through the world that are easier than loving. But who wants easier?” -Mary Oliver

“A good marriage is each for the other and two against the world.” -Robert Brault

“To keep the fire burning brightly there’s one easy rule: Keep the two logs together, near enough to keep each other warm and far enough apart – about a finger’s breadth – for breathing room. Good fire, good marriage, same rule.” -Marnie Reed Crowell

“Marriage is the virtuous exploration of love in its purest form and pleasure in its highest state.” -Fawn Weaver

“In the opinion of the world, marriage ends all, as it does in a comedy. The truth is precisely the opposite: it begins all.” -Anne S Swetchine

“Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.” -Barnett R. Brickner

“The bonds of matrimony are like any other bonds – they mature slowly.” -Peter De Vries

“Chains do not hold a marriage together. It is threads, hundreds of tiny threads which sew people together through the years.” -Simone Signoret

“Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It’s something you do. Its the way you love your partner every day.” -Barbara De Angelis

“There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.” -Ronald Reagan

“Sometimes two people stay together for the sake of the kids — two kids who sat under a full moon and pledged to be forever true.” -Robert Brault

“When people tell me they’ve learned from experience, I tell them the trick is to learn from other people’s experience.” -Warren Buffett

“Love doesn’t sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; re-made everyday, made new.” -Ursula LeGuin

“Marriage is our society’s most pro-child institution. If you want kids to do well, then you want marriage to do well.” -David Blankenhorn

“The greatest weakness of most humans is their hesitancy to tell others how much they love them while they’re still alive.” -Olando Battista

“The more things we can laugh about, the more alive we become: The more things we can laugh about together, the more connected we become.” -Frank Pittman

“Marriage provides the solace of worked-on friendship and the joy of being known profoundly.” -Imogene Stubbs

“Was it love at first sight? It wasn’t then – but it sure is now.” -Ann Meara (comedian Ben Stiller’s mom), married 58 years

“There comes a time when a man and woman realize that their separate schemes can be better achieved as a conspiracy.” -Robert Brault

“The happy State of Matrimony is, undoubtedly, the surest and most lasting Foundation of Comfort and Love . . . the Cause of all good Order in the World, and what alone preserves it from the utmost Confusion.” -Benjamin Franklin

“A good marriage at age 50 predicted positive aging at 80. But, surprisingly, low cholesterol levels did not.” -George Valliant, MD, Harvard Medical School

“No one has ever measured (not even poets) how much love the heart can hold.” -Zelda Fitzgerald

“Marriage is like a fine wine, if tended properly, it just gets better with age.” -Unknown

“Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without.” -James C. Dobson

“Love is a flower which turns into fruit at marriage.” -Finnish Proverb

“Being married is the nicest thing to be.” -Germaine from the movie, “If A Man Answers”

“Follow your heart wherever it may take you and my heart is with You, YOU are my heart” -Belinda Descombes, HWC member

“One advantage of marriage is that, when you fall out of love with him or he falls out of love with you, it keeps you together until you fall in again.” -Judith Viorst

“One of the greatest gifts you can give your husband is your own wholeness.” –Stormie Omartian

“I love being married. It’s so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” -Rita Rudner

“When there is love in a marriage, there is harmony in the home; when there is harmony in the home, there is contentment in the community; when there is contentment in the community, there is prosperity in the nation; when there is prosperity in the nation, there is peace in the world.” -Chinese Proverb

“If it’s important to her, then it’s important to me.” -Greg Provance

“The couple who prays together – stays together.” -Unknown

“There is no greater risk than matrimony. But there is nothing happier than a happy marriage.” -Former British Prime Minister, Benjamin Disraeli

“I used to believe that marriage would diminish me, reduce my options. That you had to be someone less to live with someone else when, of course, you have to be someone more.” -Candice Bergen

“Marriage. It’s like a cultural hand-rail. It links folks to the past and guides them to the future.” -Diane Frolov

“A good marriage is one which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” - Pearl Buck

‎”…Your gift to me is uninsurable. No appraiser can put a value on it… It’s like fruit of the month or a lifetime subscription – a perpetual-motion happiness machine. It starts off fresh and brand new every day, shining up my whole world…” -Ronald Reagan – in a letter to his wife Nancy

“Marriage: If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by.” - F. Burton Howard

“Excitement and fire are not qualities inherent to relationships they are what happen when two people make marriage the number one priority.” -Michele Weiner-Davis

“Your priorities aren’t what you SAY they are. They are revealed by how you live. What does your life say about the value of your family and marriage?” -Marriage Today

“Happiness: “You Bring Your Own Weather To The Picnic.” - Gretchen Rubin

“‎A happy marriage has in it all the pleasures of friendship, all the enjoyment of sense and reason – and indeed all the sweets of life.” -Joseph Addison

“The greatest favour we can do our children is to give visible example of love and esteem to our spouse. As they grow up, they may then look forward to maturity so they too can find such love.” -Eucharista Ward

“Love like there’s no tomorrow, and if tomorrow comes, love again.” -Max Lucado

“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” - Robert Heinlein

“‎Love at first sight is easy to understand; it’s when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle.” -Sam Levenson

“Love one another and you will be happy. It’s as simple and as difficult as that.” -Michael Leunig

“I got gaps; you got gaps; we fill each other’s gaps.” -Rocky Balboa (Rocky, the movie)

“Marriages, like a garden, take time to grow. But the harvest is rich unto those who patiently and tenderly care for the ground.” -Darlene Schacht

“Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable.” -Joseph Addison

“The highest happiness on earth is the happiness of marriage.” -William Lyon Phelps

“Many marriages would be better if the husband and wife clearly understood that they are on the same side.” -Zig Ziglar

“The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It’s a choice you make on your wedding day, and over and over again and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband…” -Barbara De Angelis

“Motto for the bride and groom: We are a work in progress with a lifetime contract.” -Phyllis Koss

“What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined for life to strengthen each other in all labor, to rest on each other in all sorrow, to minister to each other in all pain, to be one with each other in silent, unspeakable memories at the moment of the last parting.” -George Eliot

“A good marriage is one in which allows for change and growth in the individuals and in the way they express their love.” -Pearl S. Buck

“A happy marriage is a selfless journey in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.” -George & Yvonne Levy

“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.” -Tom Mullen

“One of the most amazing gifts in life is to find someone who knows all your flaws, differences, and mistakes, yet still loves everything about you.” -Unknown

“In our daily lives, we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but the gratefulness that makes us happy.” -Albert Clark

“One of the most beautiful things in the world is a woman’s heart. It is fragile yet strong. Delicate yet resilient. When a woman gives you her heart, she gives you her most prized possession. If you love, nurture, cherish and protect it, she’ll give you the world.” -Fawn Weaver

“What I love most about my home is who I share it with.” -Unknown

“Nothing feels better than when you love someone with your whole heart and soul and they love you back even more.” -Karen Kostyla

“A good marriage is a contest of generosity.” -Diane Sawyer

“The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself.” -Unknown

“Rules for a happy marriage: 1. Never both be angry at the same time. 2. Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. 3. If one of you has to win an argument, let it be your spouse. 4. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly. 5. Never bring up mistakes from the past. 6. Neglect the whole world rather than each other. 7. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. 8. At least once a day say a kind word or pay a compliment to your partner. 9. When you have done something wrong, admit it and ask for forgiveness. 10. It takes two to make a quarrel, and the one in the wrong is usually the one who does the most talking.” -Unknown

“The goal in marriage is not to think alike, but to think together.” -Robert C. Dodds

“Married couples who love each other tell each other a thousand things without talking.” -Chinese Proverb

“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” -Theodore Hesburgh

“What a happy and holy fashion it is that those who love one another should rest on the same pillow.” -Nathaniel Hawthorne

“A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seems too short.” -Andre Maurois

“A long marriage is two people trying to dance a duet and two solos at the same time.” -Anne Taylor Flemming

“The more you invest in a marriage, the more valuable it becomes.” - Amy Grant

“In marriage, each partner is to be an encourager rather than a critic, a forgiver rather than a collector of hurts, an enabler rather than a reformer.” -H. Norman Wright and Gary Oliver

“For you see, each day I love you more. Today more than yesterday and less than tomorrow.” -Rosemond Gerard

“We waste time looking for the perfect lover, instead of creating the perfect love.” -Tom Robbins

“New love is the brightest and long love is the greatest. But revived love is the tenderest thing known on earth.” -Thomas Hardy

“Make a list of ten of your spouse’s faults, which, for the sake of your marriage, you will always overlook. You can live with those ten.” -J & G Murphy

“In every marriage, more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and to continue to find, grounds for marriage.” -Robert Anderson

“Two things are owed to truthfulness: lasting marriages and short friendships.” -Robert Brault

“The sum which two married people owe to one another is defies calculation. It is an infinite debt, which can only be discharged through eternity.” -Johann Wolfgang von Goethe 

“In a time when nothing is more certain than change, the commitment of two people to one another has become difficult and rare. Yet, by its scarcity, the beauty and value of this exchange have only been enhanced.” -Robert Sexton

“You didn’t learn how to play an instrument well in one night. It will take time to learn how to “make music” with your spouse too.” -J & G Murphy

“More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.” -Doug Larson

“Love is not something you look for… love is something you become.” -Alina Villasante

“It’s the little things that keep us together. Those little things will make me love you forever.” -Sonia Schaad

“Love is given to us as a time, but to keep it always, we must make it a place.” -Robert Brault

“Happiness is by choice…not by chance.” -Unknown

“We tend to forget that happiness doesn’t come as a result of getting something we don’t have but rather of recognizing and appreciating what we do have.” -Frederick Keonig

“Love is patient. Love is kind. Love does not envy. Love does not boast. Love is not proud. Love is not rude. Love is not self-seeking. Love is not easily angered. Love keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil. Love rejoices with the truth. Love always protects. Love always trusts. Love always hopes. Love always perseveres. Love never fails.” -1 Corinthians 13: 4-8

“Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.” -Unknown

“Lean on each other’s strengths. Forgive each other’s weaknesses.” -Unknown

“There is only one happiness in life; to love and be loved.” -George Sand

“It is love, not reason, that is stronger than death.” -Thomas Mann

“Turn your love into promises, that when you doubt your love, you may simply ask, “Am I keeping my promises?” -Robert Brault

“The highest love a person can have for you is to wish you to evolve into the best person you can be.” -David Viscott

“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” -Unknown

“Being someone’s first love may be great, but to be their last is beyond perfect.” -Unknown

“Don’t compare your love story to those you watch in movies. They’re written by screenwriters, yours is written by God.” -Unknown

“Any reason is a good reason and any time is a good time to say ‘I Love You.’” -Fawn Weaver

“A relationship is like a house. When a light bulb burns out you don’t go and buy a new house, you change the light bulb.” -Unknown

“I want a marriage more beautiful than my wedding.” -Unknown

“Motto for the bride and groom. We are a work in progress with a lifetime commitment.” -Unknown

“Any home can be a castle when the king and queen are in love.” -Unknown

“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.” -Tom Mullen

“Family: Where life begins and love never ends.” -Unknown

“What I love most about my home is who I share it with.” -Tad Carpenter

“To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.” -Unknown

“The most desired gift of love is not diamonds or roses or chocolate. It’s focused attention.” -Rick Warren

“They say, ‘It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all.’ I say, ‘It is better to love and when you get discouraged, love some more, and never lose your love at all.” -Fawn Weaver

“If you want to know where your heart is, look to where your mind goes when it wonders.” -Unknown

“You meet thousands of people and none of them really touch you; and then you meet one person and your life is changed forever.” -Unknown

“A happy man married the girl he loves; a happier man loves the girl he marries.” -Susan Douglas

“There is no such thing as a perfect man or a perfect marriage. But the one I have is perfect for me.” -Fawn Weaver

“A great spouse loves you exact the way you are. An extraordinary spouse helps you grow; inspires you to be, do and give your very best.” -Fawn Weaver

“You don’t love someone because they’re perfect. You love them in spite of the fact they’re not.” -Jodi Picoult

“The highest love a person can have for you is to wish you to evolve into the best person you can be.” -David Viscott

“In the enriching of marriage, the big things are the little things. There must be constant appreciation for each other and thoughtful demonstration of gratitude. A couple must encourage and help each other grow. Marriage is a joint quest for the good, the beautiful, and the divine” -James E. Faust

“My husband is one of my greatest blessings from God.  His love is a gift that I open every day.” -Darlene Schacht

“We adore more than we irritate, that’s why we’ve lasted so long.” -Cathy Thorne

“We have the greatest pre-nuptial agreement in the world.  It’s called love.” -Gene Perret

“Marriage succeeds only as lifetime commitment with no escape clauses.” –Dr. James Dobson

“Love is a promise; love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.” – John Lennon

“True story… Once upon a time there lived a wife with the most incredible husband ever… The End.” -Darlene Schacht

“It’s always nice to have someone in your life who can make you smile even when they’re not around.” -Unknown

“My philosophy: If it doesn’t add love, trust & value to your life, it doesn’t belong in your life.” -Lisa Manyon

“When I am with you, the only place I want to be is closer.” -Unknown

“Kissing is a means of getting two people so close together that they can’t see anything wrong with each other.” -Rene Yasenek

“Being deeply loved by someone gives your strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” -Lao Tzu

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love.  When we are afraid, we pull back from life.  When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections.  If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create.” -John Lennon

“Love is life.  If you miss love, you miss life.” -Leo Buscalglia

“We love the things we love for what they are.” -Robert Frost

“Love is like the wind.  You can’t see it but you can feel it.” -Nicholas Sparks

“Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.” -Bertrand Russell

“Love is when you meet someone who tells you something knew about yourself.” -Andre Breton

“Marriage does not guarantee you will be together forever, it’s only paper. It takes love, respect, trust, understanding, friendship and faith in your relationship to make it last.” -Unknown

The best gift you can give your children is a happy home.

A woman can make or break a man with a single word.

A woman should always ask God out loud
for good things for her husband.

For a happy home, don’t argue about religion.
Find someone else to be your spiritual advisor,
other than your husband or wife.  

This is your soulmate.
Once you’re married,
you have to know
this is the one God chose for you.

Honor your wife more than yourself.
Love your wife more then yourself.
Do not let her shed a tear.  

Flirting

 One of the best things that has happened to me is you.

Yes, I flirt. But once I'm yours, I'm yours. I'll stay committed to you, and only you. No one else.

Flirting is the art of keeping intimacy at a safe distance.
- Sabina Sesselmann

Flirtation, attention without intention.
- Paul Blouet

All women are flirts, but some are restrained by shyness, and others by sense.
- François Rochefoucauld

A woman will flirt with anybody in the world as long as other people are looking on.
- Oscar Wilde

A day without sunshine is a day without you.
- Kenna

If I kind of like a guy, then I’m a fantastic flirt. But with a guy I truly like, I get painfully shy.
- Shannen Doherty

Flirting is the gentle art of making a man feel pleased with himself.
- Helen Rowland

If I kind of like a guy, then I’m a fantastic flirt. But with a guy I truly like, I get painfully shy.
- Shannen Doherty

There are some women who are flirts upon principle; they consider it their duty to make themselves as pleasing as possible to every one.
- Antoine

For a married woman to flirt is a sin.
- Anna Held

To have a man who can flirt is next thing to indispensable to a leader of society.
- Margaret Oliphant

Friends 101

We have three types of friends in life: Friends for a reason, friends for a season, and friends for a lifetime.

Stupid Relationship

The biggest mistake you can make is holding onto someone who has already let you go.

Happiness starts with, one word, one joke, one text, one phone call, one song, one hug, one kiss... and stops with one mistake.

Most people cheat because they're paying more attention to what they're missing rather than what they have.

If you cheat on a girl wiling to do anything for you, you are a dumb ass.

Studpid Girl

He saw you. He met you. He wanted you. He liked you. He chased you. He got you. He had you. He got bored of you. He left you. He broke you.

What's worse than being alone? Being used, lied to, deceived, fucked over, left behind, and completely forgotten. ......Just saying.

It goes from “babe” to “bitch” “I love you” to “I hate you” “I need you” to “fuck you” “you’re my everything” to “you’re nothing

Secret of Magnetism

"I do not feel that a list of credentials can perfectly define character. Compassion, determination and perseverance, strength, inspiration, service, participation and assistance are just some of the virtues that lead to a qualification that rises above any title or achievement."
Mark Loong

I don't care who you are, I don't care how you look, I don't care where you're from, if you can make me laugh then I like you. 

Words can create suffering or happiness. Use only words that inspire hope and confidence.

  Text her something sweet while she's sleeping, so in the morning she wakes up with a smile on her face.

Takes 3 seconds to say l love you,three hours to explain it and a lifetime to prove it.

Your influence is determined by how abundantly you place other people's interests first.

 Before someone can become the apple of your eye, you must become the rose of your own heart!

A small word of encouragement can change another’s life.
A small act of kindness can save another’s life.

You can have everything in life that you want if you just give enough other people what they want. -Zig Ziglar

How can you forget someone who gave you so much to remember.

You can't just come into someone's life, make them feel special, and then leave.

 People only see what they are prepared to see. ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

 Don't waste your time with explanations, people only hear what they want to hear.

I don't care how attractive you are. If your personality is ugly, so are you.

Don't be someone's downtime, spare time, part time or sometime. If they can't be there for you all of the time.

Every woman deserves a man who respects her and every man deserves a woman who appreciates his effort.

Respect is earned, Honesty is appreciated, Love is gained and Loyalty is returned.

Through opposition we grow stronger.
This is the essence of personal growth.

Boys never realize how much one little thing can hurt a girl.

Forgiveness

Forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you & feel the power to wish them well. ~Lewis B. Smedes

Funny facts about men

Some men focus more on how to get a woman, but once they have her, they lose focus on how to keep her.